My aunt passed away a few weeks ago, after a long struggle with motor neurone disease. She was an incredible woman and this became more evident the sicker she became. We know she is in a better place, but now we have to deal with a world without her in it. My heart particularly goes out to her husband, children and grandchildren and to my father, her brother. I do not have the right words for how I feel in a time like this, part of you wants to go on, but actually we need to mourn and remember what we have lost so that we can continue. I would like to quote Kris Vallotton who summed it up really well:
“Jesus said, “blessed are those who mourn for they shall be comforted”. In America we avoid pain at all cost so instead of mourning with those who mourn, we often think it is our job to cheer people up. But mourning and grieving is the road to wholeness and peace. David said, “weeping endures through the night but joy comes in the morning.” Sometimes the “night” is longer than 8 hours; it is the dark season of the soul. In these night seasons it’s important to remember that God is bigger than our pain. If we don’t stuff our pain but allow the process of grieving to bring closure to our lives…the season will change and joy will return.
One more thing; trying to figure out “why” in the midst of our pain, usually leads to wrong answers and bitterness. Not only that, it prolongs the “night” season of mourning.
Sometimes people get “stuck” in grief and they need us to take them by the heart and lead them back to joy. But shutting down mourning prematurely will lead to incomplete healing and chronic heart pain.
Love NEVER fails!” Kris Vallotton (kvministeries.com)